Thursday, March 19, 2009

Wuthering Heights Anticipation

To begin, I would have to completely disagree with the statement, "Children are responsible for their parent's mistakes." In my mind this is reversed. I feel that parents should do everything they possibly can to guide their children in the right direction. This process begins when the child is born, at first this baby is helpless, so it is a parent's job to feed them, teach them how to walk, speak, and from then on the process never ends. While they are teenagers, a parent needs to express to the child right from wrong in difficult situations. As my parents always say, "We were in your position once, so listen to our advice and take it!" It is true the parent already made most of their mistakes even before the child was born, so I do no understand how children can be responsible for their parent's mistakes. The parent is always older, has experienced life, and needs to do the leading. They can make mistakes because they are human, but I feel that blaming their children is an immature way to not take responsibility for their personal mistakes. 

Another statement that really got me thinking was, "Adults never play 'make-believe'." The term "make-believe" can have several different explanations. It can be dressing up when you are a little girl pretending you are a princess, but I think overall in life it means pretending you are something that you are not. I am sure that everyone once in their life has gone through something and thought back - wow what was I doing? what was I thinking? and what was I trying to be? There are always stories about women being thousands and thousands of dollars in debt because they cannot stop shopping. It is a habit, and I truly believe that these women are trying to portray and image of themselves that is false. They are "make-believing" they can afford certain clothes, accessories, and homes when in reality their pay check does not cover those expenses. This proves that adults can play make-believe, they are trying to believe they are something that they aren't. 

This site below demonstrates the harsh consequences people face, from trying to believe they can afford the cute accessories, homes, and cars that they really like. This is just one situation, but I am sure there are many many many more. 

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/20/business/20debt.html?_r=1&scp=22&sq=shopping%20debts&st=cse

5 comments:

john said...

Dear Mom,
As I read the "adult's never play make believe" statement, I thought about adults who look back on their lives and know they could have done more. I then realized that some adults play 'make believe' by living vicariously through their children. This could lead to strict discipline, and some parents may use violence as a way to get their child to improve at something that they themselves could never have done. Why I first read entire statement, I thought of 'make believe' as a positive thing, like playing a game; I now realize that it can just as easily be very negative.

Hari Shah said...

I completely agree with on the topic of what you said about how our parents only help us out. I mean you're right on how children need guidance when they feel they are lost and stop believing in themselves. They are just there to help their children. Also, i have to say that parents want better for their children so they do help us out a lot.

Christa said...

I agree too Cayy... even if we both do have mental disabilities. I think that the points you brought up about both topics were accurate. Specifically the first one made me think of all the times in movies and books when the child feels responsible for their parents' actions. They feel as though it is their fault that their parent drinks or smokes or has a bad temper. But I completely agree that no matter what it is never the child's fault. A parent's job is to guide their child/children for their first eighteen years teaching them what to do and what not to do. It is solely the job of the parents to set a good example and if they fail to do so that can never be blamed on the child.

victoria said...

weird i actually wrote almost the same thing. twins much? Anyway i totally agree. i think it is the morals and lessons parents teach their kids that determines the mistakes a child might make. I think that if parents blame their mistakes on their children they aren't doing a good job as parents. it's funny that we agree cause our parents have similar parenting styles lol.

Techman Jones said...

I would like to both agree and disagree with your first statement. I agree with the fact that children are certainly not responsible for their parent's mistakes. On the other hand, parents are not always responsible for their children's mistakes. There are times when a parent can only do so much, and if the child does not take the initiative, it can not be the parent's fault that the child makes a mistake. In addition, at a certain age, this statement becomes moot, because eventually, children have to be able to take responsibilty for themselves, and their mistakes.